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Transitioning with Your Family

Do you think that for Travis, this situation could have been better handled?

With the mayor at his side, longtime Largo City, Florida Manager Steve Stanton disclosed to the St. Petersburg Times on Wednesday that he is undergoing hormone therapy and counseling in preparation for a sex-change operation.
Through the process, which could take well over a year, Stanton plans to remain as the chief executive of the city of 76,000. He has the support of Mayor Pat Gerard, elected last March.
"He's a dedicated city manager and puts his job first," said Gerard, who learned of the decision Jan. 1.
Stanton, 48, said he eventually will change his name to Susan, the name his late mother would have given him if he had been a girl.
Married with a 13-year-old son, Stanton said he has thought of becoming a woman since childhood. He said he has gone out in public as a woman in recent years, but only in places like Orlando, Atlanta and Chicago.
Stanton had planned to announce his decision in June so his son could be out of town. But that changed this week after the Times heard of possible changes in Stanton's life and approached him. He and Gerard described in detail his decision and plans Wednesday morning.

Steven Stanton on Talking to his Son, Travis

There was a lot of discussion about my insensitivity to my son’s needs. Everybody thought that he learned from the news media. He did not learn from the news media. He learned from mom and dad that night sitting in our living room. We talked about courage, we talked about conviction, we talked about doing something that was so personally sensitive that his daddy had been struggling with as a very small boy.

We talked about the inside growing up and matching the outside and that I was going through the process of trying to make the outside and the inside the same. And we talked about the core values that make people, people and make a dad, a dad and make a relationship between the son and the father sustainable over time irrespective of one’s gender. And he’s been great. He has been super, he has not missed a day at school, he’s not missed an hour of school.


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I wonder how well Travis is actually doing. Sure, he hasn't missed a day of school, but does he really have a choice in the matter? Due to the scrutiny of media attention on the family, it doesn't seem like Travis has the space or time to deal with such a drastic change in his father's public identity.

Another KOT (kid of trans) recently in the media -- the son of Julie Nemecek, a professor in Michigan who was fired from her small Christian college for being transgender. Her son has a blog: http://blog.myfathershe.com/.

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